Being Empathic – Fundamentals

Being Empathic – Fundamentals

Some things to know about Empaths and being empathic. It’s crucial to be grounded in your body, and practice feeling where you and your energy leave off, and another’s energy begins. That’s a boundary. Being all up in your headspace makes this challenging. If or when you absorb someone’s energy, transmute it by giving it to Mother Earth. She uses it like psychic compost. Another favorite is fire – it purifies and transmutes. We must make it a habit not to take on the energy of others. When we do, we obliterate their and our sovereignty. Bear in mind that taking on the pain, feelings or energy of another in no way helps them. It just means you both now feel crappy. Plus, you’re essentially trying to take responsibility for how they feel. Doing so takes away their own responsibility and therefore their individual power. Taking responsibility for how another feels, doesn’t grant you the ability to “fix”, “solve”, or “heal” their pain. In truth, it’s an act of codependency. It’s also an act of narcissism; you’re making their feelings/pain/etc., about YOU. As Empaths we must be aware and diligent about our own energy and boundaries. We are sensitive and get overwhelmed easily. We also burn out easily. Empaths’ sensitivity typically means that chemicals in foods and drink, drugs, medications, cleaning agents, perfumes, personal care products and all others you can think of, have a greater effect. That is to say substances like alcohol, sugar, caffeine (to name a few) have a much stronger affect our bodies and energy. We are not able to process them as easily. We...
Love is Darkness

Love is Darkness

Venus Retrograde “Could you stand to let me Love your demons? The beast within Rendered tame by One gaze upon Pure love Would you fall apart completely If I loved all your nastiest secrets? Broken open, My touch soothing Every sharp, jagged pain You possess Would your heart run away From love’s unflinching witness? All your self-loathing crimes Looked upon through love’s gaze Compassion becomes your Sentence and redemption Could you surrender your burdens Long enough to be worshiped? Your scars and aches, blemishes and flaws Laid bare Your body the altar Upon which I fervently pray Would you run away if I told you I see your treasure? Lying in the murky depths Of your most ruined places Ancient, buried, forgotten Let’s cherish the journey of excavation Have you ever truly seen Your own terrible beauty? My light will shine upon The mirror so you may look Our eyes feasting upon your magnificence May we bow in reverence” ~ Lisa C. Adams, March 2017 Photo by Mina Habibi, Portrait...
Sovereign AF

Sovereign AF

If you are truly interested in claiming your personal power, you must claim your Sovereignty. Doing so means a great deal and is an exercise in integrity. It tells the universe that you mean business and you’re not fucking around. 👑 It’s things like finding your authentic voice – not parroting others. 👑 It’s doing your own work, according to your special talents and passions – not modeling yourself after what society says, or what others want you to be. 👑 It’s devotion to Truth – Universal Truth, and your personal truth – not compromising who you know yourself to be. 👑 It’s claiming ownership of your knowledge, lessons, hardships, triumphs, etc., in an embodied way – it’s not thinking that only magic and intentions take you where you want to be. 👑 It’s putting in the work in the 3D time-space continuum; earning your bonafides is the most powerful act of magic imaginable. 👑 It’s devotion to your teachers, crediting them and honoring them for all they’ve taught you. You stay in integrity as a student and someone who desires to lead when you do this. 👑 It’s realizing you are responsible for your reality and the consequences of all your thoughts, words, and actions. 👑 It’s paying homage to the traditions, the bodies of work, the lineages, your ancestry, etc., that inform who you are, and the people who shared a particular thing/book/saying/insight with you that made an impact. 👑 It’s understanding that you are you, and I am me, and they are them, and that while we are All One, we each have our own unique...
Lush, Wet, Fertile

Lush, Wet, Fertile

As we gaze upon Mother Earth at this time, may we remember that She is everything we touch, see, feel, hear, smell, taste, experience… May our gratitude and reverence for Her be eternal. For without Her, we simply would not be. Everything we have comes from Her. Through Her. She nourishes and provides. She is Earth, Moon, Water, fiery passion, the very air we breathe, And yet, Her astonishing beauty takes our breath away. Especially now – at Her most fertile – the height of Her fecundity. She blossoms, exposing Her desire. Flirtatiously flaunting her fragrant flowers. Shameless in Her glory and desire for love and fulfillment. Observing Her, we come to know ourselves more profoundly: Our primitive selves understanding the need to blossom and ripen in Spring and Summer, then to shed and stand naked in Autumn and Winter. She sets an example that society would shame: That is being ourselves, loving ourselves, EMBODYING our most authentic selves Without apology. That in so doing, we bless Her and each other, stirred to soar to new heights and growth. Witness Earth and She witnesses us. Photo by Mia...
Pain Loves You

Pain Loves You

What does it take before you give in to the pain? The pain of not feeling good. Of shame and guilt. The pain of depletion. Or the pain of destroying your relationships. What about the pain of a body wracked with health issues? The pain of burden from taking on too much – work, worry, lies, other people’s stuff…. When do you give into the pain and make it your ally? Pain is a Guide. Pain exists to get your attention. It points to the thing(s) that need your attention. The things that need to change in order for you to live your life in fullness. When pain arises, it’s a heads up, an invitation to go deep within and heed its call. Pain invites you to listen. Pay attention. Witness. Notice. Be *Present*. Become aware. Whether it’s an addiction Unhealthy habits or behaviors Not being honest with yourself Staying stuck in a job, relationship, or situation that drains you Not taking care of your body Temple Giving your power and sovereignty over to a boss, doctor, partner, parent, government… Numbing out won’t help you. It prolongs the pain. Numbing turns pain into sickness, depression, anger, sadness, disgust, shame, guilt, cancer (actual or cancerous thoughts.) Ultimately numbing is sabotage. How are you going to listen to the Truth of your pain? How can you love it for the wisdom it provides? I can honestly say that pain has helped me to turn things around in my life. It’s helped me come to realize that I had/have health issues that require my attention and changes. It helped me put an...
Venus Retrograde

Venus Retrograde

Venus went Retrograde last Wednesday for 40 days and 40 nights. ✨Pro tip – this is a bad time to make big investments, change your appearance, or get into a new relationship you want to be longterm (great for a fling, though. 😉) I repeat: Don’t cut all your hair off or do anything drastic to alter your appearance. Take time and be patient about major investments or cash outlays. If you still want the thing after Venus goes direct, DO IT. It is a good time to revisit/review/renew love relationships. If you marry while Venus is Retrograde, you invite a certain amount of Shadow Work into your Union. While that’s the case with all relationships, it’s intensified and probably more challenging to work through under this transit. And, it can also be a time of challenge for relationships. Crisis is fertile ground for breakthrough. 🌸Indulge in pleasurable experiences. 🌸Treat yourself as your most beloved. 🌸Tell people how much you love them. 🌸Clean and redo your home and altar. 🌸Spend time in or near the water. 🌸Create art, beautify your surroundings, dress up in a way that makes you feel good. Venus cordially invites you to work with her to further your awareness and bring your Shadows to Light. You can do so willingly, or kicking and screaming. The choice is yours. ⚡️💖🖤💖⚡️ Photo by Mina Habibi, Portrait...

Apocalyptic

That tender-heartedness, that aching inside you. Those places where you want to cry, scream, thrash…. Those are the places where you may be holding on too tight. There’s pain in the struggle to hold tight, but there’s freedom, catharsis, and fresh, new energy waiting when you let go. That tenderness may even be the openness you feel as the walls and barriers come down – the thawing of frozen energy that has surrounded your heart for far too long. Or the shedding of scales that covered your eyes to Truth. Welcome the tenderness. Say yes to the devastation and demolition of old constructs. Breathe through it all. Stay empty for a while. Give yourself permission to be ok with that discomfort. You will survive. You may even thrive. Newness and freedom beckon to you. Freedom that’s born of sovereignty. Open up to Truth. Call out what is Real. Celebrate what is Just and lift it up for all to behold. Look closely at what is corrupted and NEVER forget how it looks and feels. The putrid smell… Get used to not knowing, let go of certainty. Control is manipulation and you’re no longer playing that game. Normal was a fallacy they spoon-fed us from birth. There’s no security what is decaying. Facades are dissolving in our midst. Complacency is no longer an option. Life will never be the same. And that is a wonderful thing. ~ Lisa C....
It doesn’t feel good anymore

It doesn’t feel good anymore

It doesn’t feel good anymore. I’ve been inside the realms of tantra, spirituality, and self-awareness – those thing that supposedly catalyze growth – for a very long time. (Longer than most) As I see posts from others in the community, posts offering insights and challenges, I’m not *feeling* it anymore. Answers aren’t exactly clear right now. Many feelings are surfacing that I’ve not made sense of yet. I keep looking for ::more:: Something fresh and new. Something authentic and activating. But I don’t see or feel those things being offered. It feels hollow. Empty AF. It’s not just me. I am clear that many so-called teachers and experts are asserting ideas and narratives that wreak of dogmatism. While I get that the things that previously brought us joy or succor aren’t exactly doing that any longer, I wonder why I feel a lack of joy, an absence of connection, an emptiness, feelings of “that does not resonate” and “same old, same old.” Preaching to a choir of those who will listen; those who are unsure enough to overthink and question themselves. Repeatedly. Please hear me! You don’t have to follow the “code” or buy into a limited way of thinking. You don’t don’t need anyone to tell you how to behave, how to heal, how to find love, how to understand, how to BE. You/we are much more powerful than that. Too many are taking the things I love and hold most dear – the very studies and practices I hold precious – and making them finite and absolute. That’s not Tantra. That’s not true spirituality or mysticism. It...