On BEcoming Through Maturing

On BEcoming Through Maturing

New hair – who’s this? Truly. I’m asking this question of myself. As I confront becoming an “older, more mature” woman whose staring at the last third (or end of the third quarter) of life, I want to know Her. Exploring what it means, what it looks like, to become a Wise Woman. For the last few years I’ve been looking up older women for inspiration: celebrities , public figures, women I personally know who emulate and embody what I’m looking for. What do they look like? What do they wear? How does grey hair look? What does it mean to soften? How do they emulate grace? Are they wrapped up in maintaining youth? Are they getting facelists? Botox? Fillers? Are any of those things aligned for me? Do I want to allow the maturing of my visage? Or do I strive against the process? And to what degree? Who is in integrity with the transformation of maturing? Of this I am clear – we get to choose how we want to grow with age. To me, that means embracing certain aspects of aging, and taking the best care of my beautiful body temple, possible. Hardcore workouts are a thing of the past. My body doesn’t want or deserve punishment. It wants and deserves my love. It prefers yoga, dance, stretching, hiking and walking. My body temple doesn’t want sugar anymore. It’s communicating it’s disdain for certain foods and environments. I’m listening. Making this change in my hair is an outer reflection of the inner growth I engage. Cutting off the old, damaged hair and letting my beautiful silver...
The Feminine Wound

The Feminine Wound

I clearly recall growing up and attending public school with an open heart. I also clearly remember the feeling of being ostracized, judged and condemned by my female peers. This during the utterly difficult and confusing time of adolescence. (Add to that family dysfunction writ large.) That time was hurtful and caused me a great deal of pain. I never understood why girls behaved that way, or what prompted such ugliness. I wanted to be friends, to be liked. And, I’m loyal to a fault. There’s a cliché about girls being catty towards one another and competitive. Many clichés exist because they are true. As I grew older and left the era of public school I found true friendships and sisterhood with other women. Many of which are not just intact to this day, but are thriving, nurturing, uplifting, supportive relationships. One of my most profound experiences of sisterhood came as I worked for a short time as an exotic dancer. We were all loving and supportive of one another. Protective even. Each time a dancer would take the stage there was a recognition that sounded like “There’s _________, so beautiful, unique, doing her gorgeous, mesmerizing dance moves. My friend and ally.” And, that was certainly the case. We had to stick together and look after each other. I’ve always been the kind of person, the kind of woman who loves other women. I celebrate them, befriend them, offer my best. There’s a strange awareness that has pervaded many encounters with other women along the way, one of intimidation. I have rarely felt intimidated. Rather, they were intimidated by...
Scorpio Season

Scorpio Season

Q: What did you do the other night? Me: I was in the woods burning stuff with all the other witches. (DUH) But truly, this is the time of year when we honor the dead, pay homage to our ancestors, and let go of our attachments to things that no longer serve us. Blah, blah, blah, right? Heard it all before… Rather cliche at this point. Yes. But, it’s the time of Scorpio. Let’s take this deeper. Much deeper. Acknowledging Death is one of the most important things we can ever do. Death is an absolute. It’s a capital T Truth. Without Death, life has less meaning. Without Death and decay, this 3-D timespace continuum would be utter chaos. It would also be claustrophobic AF. Society fears Death because it’s become so sterile and has been removed from our day to day existence. We run from it instead of facing it head-on. (Ever notice how those facing death who’ve come to accept it without fear have the most peaceful continence and epitomize Grace?) chew on that a bit. Acknowledging Those Who Have Gone Before – the ancestors – keeps us humble, and tethers us to lineage. We come to understand that we are connected to everything and everyone. Our ancestors fought, strived, loved, endured, learned and evolved so that we could be here now, continuing the Cycle of Life. Their good works carry forward to ours. This is legacy. The thing is, American/Western culture isn’t good at making room for lineage or holding sacred space for the stories and customs of ancestors. We’ve lost our sense of Mythos, and...
Self Care During Intensity

Self Care During Intensity

So many people are struggling and asking what they can do to help with this intense AF energy and facilitate their heart-expansion. As you read through my recommendations, note how much of this is simply doing what’s real and true, as well as how many times I’ve repeated the same advice over the years. This is not necessarily new information. It’s being echoed in order to be reinforced. Most of these things are integral to living a healthy, spiritual life. These suggestions are also useful in finding balance and bringing you back to/towards center when things are “off.” In no particular order… Meditate. This is a key that unlocks your potential. This is especially how you tune in to your inner wisdom. If you’re not already doing this regularly, now is a great time to begin. Rest. Get outside and relish in fresh air, sunshine, and the beauty of nature. Hug a tree. Lay on the ground. Look up at the sky. Move your body. Seriously, this is part of how we move stagnant energy. I’m not telling you to punish your body at the gym. I’m telling you that walking, hiking, dancing, yoga, love-making, etc., are joyful ways to move and crucial to overall health on absolutely every level of your BEing. Eat healthy, real foods – fruits, veggies, protein. Drink lots of water. And some herbal tea. Nettle is great right now. Get some Greens in your body. Things like kale, spinach, algae, chlorophyll, etc., will help your body integrate the new energy that’s downloading. These things raise your vibration. Sing, drum, scream, howl…. also ways to...
Heart Connection

Heart Connection

The people who are destined to meet and come together to hold the planet in a container of Love, Truth, and Healing, are meeting up. It’s a time of connection, and of deepening the intimacy in your current relationships of all kinds. Especially intimacy in the relationship to yourself. Heart-opening and activation are flooding the third dimension from the cosmos. This flooding is also flushing out many old programs and can feel confusing. Bear with it, as things settle, the clarity starts to set in. There are many circumstances where you may think you have the answer, or figured something out. Then – in a moment – EVERYTHING shifts. And you find yourself somewhere altogether different. It’s intense. And beautiful. It’s an incredibly POWERFUL time. Pay attention to who, where, and how people and situations are showing up in your life. Check-in and ask yourself some questions: How did this person/these people/this situation enter my life – what was the framework? Why did we meet now? What are we here to do? How does this feel in my body? Is this something I truly want? Or is this to show me what I do not want? How did my thinking and intentions bring this into being? Do I feel/think/know differently now? If I’m honest with myself, does this (person, place, situation) really align with my highest integrity? Why? Why not? How can I live in the fullest integrity possible at this time? Is it time to act? Or time to sit and *listen*? Do I have all the answers I need? Am I clear? Does this feel like Yes?...