Sharing My Musings With You!
Some things to know about Empaths and being empathic.
It’s crucial to be grounded in your body, and practice feeling where you and your energy leave off, and another’s energy begins. That’s a boundary. Being all up in your headspace makes this challenging.
If or when you absorb someone’s energy, transmute it by giving it to Mother Earth. She uses it like psychic compost. Another favorite is fire – it purifies and transmutes.
We must make it a habit not to take on the energy of others. When we do, we obliterate their and our sovereignty.
Bear in mind that taking on the pain, feelings or energy of another in no way helps them. It just means you both now feel crappy. Plus, you’re essentially trying to take responsibility for how they feel. Doing so takes away their own responsibility and therefore their individual power.
Taking responsibility for how another feels, doesn’t grant you the ability to “fix”, “solve”, or “heal” their pain. In truth, it’s an act of codependency.
It’s also an act of narcissism; you’re making their feelings/pain/etc., about YOU.
As Empaths we must be aware and diligent about our own energy and boundaries. We are sensitive and get overwhelmed easily. We also burn out easily.
Empaths’ sensitivity typically means that chemicals in foods and drink, drugs, medications, cleaning agents, perfumes, personal care products and all others you can think of, have a greater effect. That is to say substances like alcohol, sugar, caffeine (to name a few) have a much stronger affect our bodies and energy. We are not able to process them as easily. We must be cautious and diligent with how, when, or if we imbibe chemical substances.
Being empathic is a gift. It’s typically the gift of wounding and trauma. Our sensitivity makes us excellent healers and helps us to know what’s going on in our environment and the world at large.
Resist urges (this one is tough) to numb out with your vice of choice, be it sugar, drugs or alcohol, tv, social media, busyness, video games, etc.
Instead, get out in nature, meditate, move your body, drink lots of water, rest, get plenty of sleep, eat lots of plants food and organic proteins, connect to the elements. You may need to avoid crowds or limit your exposure to groups, tv, news, a negative individuals.
This is all fundamental to your health and realizing the gifts of being empathic.
“Could you stand to let me
Love your demons?
The beast within
Rendered tame by
One gaze upon
Would you fall apart completely
If I loved all your nastiest secrets?
My touch soothing
Every sharp, jagged pain
Would your heart run away
From love’s unflinching witness?
All your self-loathing crimes
Looked upon through love’s gaze
Compassion becomes your
Sentence and redemption
Could you surrender your burdens
Long enough to be worshiped?
Your scars and aches, blemishes and flaws
Your body the altar
Upon which I fervently pray
Would you run away if
I told you I see your treasure?
Lying in the murky depths
Of your most ruined places
Ancient, buried, forgotten
Let’s cherish the journey of excavation
Have you ever truly seen
Your own terrible beauty?
My light will shine upon
The mirror so you may look
Our eyes feasting upon your magnificence
May we bow in reverence”
~ Lisa C. Adams, March 2017
Photo by Mina Habibi, Portrait Artist
If you are truly interested in claiming your personal power, you must claim your Sovereignty.
Doing so means a great deal and is an exercise in integrity. It tells the universe that you mean business and you’re not fucking around.
👑 It’s things like finding your authentic voice – not parroting others.
👑 It’s doing your own work, according to your special talents and passions – not modeling yourself after what society says, or what others want you to be.
👑 It’s devotion to Truth – Universal Truth, and your personal truth – not compromising who you know yourself to be.
👑 It’s claiming ownership of your knowledge, lessons, hardships, triumphs, etc., in an embodied way – it’s not thinking that only magic and intentions take you where you want to be.
👑 It’s putting in the work in the 3D time-space continuum; earning your bonafides is the most powerful act of magic imaginable.
👑 It’s devotion to your teachers, crediting them and honoring them for all they’ve taught you. You stay in integrity as a student and someone who desires to lead when you do this.
👑 It’s realizing you are responsible for your reality and the consequences of all your thoughts, words, and actions.
👑 It’s paying homage to the traditions, the bodies of work, the lineages, your ancestry, etc., that inform who you are, and the people who shared a particular thing/book/saying/insight with you that made an impact.
👑 It’s understanding that you are you, and I am me, and they are them, and that while we are All One, we each have our own unique part in lifting up and upholding our World – society, community, Mother Earth.
👑 It’s acknowledging what works for you, what doesn’t work for you, and shifting until alignment occurs.
👑 As a Sovereign you decide what you are and are not willing to accept.
👑 It’s knowing what you believe and allowing that to be questioned, deepened, evolutionary.
👑 It’s also acknowledging what you don’t know, can’t claim as yours, and referring to another source, or a commitment to getting the answer.
👑 Sovereignty is an utter devotion and commitment to unflinching self-awareness and self-honesty. It’s taking ownership of yourself and holding yourself accountable to the highest possible standards.
👑 It’s also compassion and forgiveness for those times you fall short or realize you weren’t clear with yourself or your unacknowledged motivations and expectations.
There’s much more to claiming your power as a Sovereign BEing, but this is a great manifesto to begin. ~Lisa C. Adams
Photo by Mina Habibi, Portrait Artist
As we gaze upon Mother Earth at this time, may we remember that She is everything we touch, see, feel, hear, smell, taste, experience…
May our gratitude and reverence for Her be eternal.
For without Her, we simply would not be.
Everything we have comes from Her. Through Her.
She nourishes and provides.
She is Earth, Moon, Water, fiery passion, the very air we breathe,
And yet, Her astonishing beauty takes our breath away.
Especially now – at Her most fertile – the height of Her fecundity.
She blossoms, exposing Her desire.
Flirtatiously flaunting her fragrant flowers.
Shameless in Her glory and desire for love and fulfillment.
Observing Her, we come to know ourselves more profoundly:
Our primitive selves understanding the need to blossom and ripen in Spring and Summer, then to shed and stand naked in Autumn and Winter.
She sets an example that society would shame:
That is being ourselves, loving ourselves,
EMBODYING our most authentic selves
That in so doing, we bless Her and each other, stirred to soar to new heights and growth.
Witness Earth and She witnesses us.
Photo by Mia Darling
What does it take before you give in to the pain?
The pain of not feeling good. Of shame and guilt.
The pain of depletion. Or the pain of destroying your relationships.
What about the pain of a body wracked with health issues?
The pain of burden from taking on too much – work, worry, lies, other people’s stuff….
When do you give into the pain and make it your ally?
Pain is a Guide.
Pain exists to get your attention. It points to the thing(s) that need your attention. The things that need to change in order for you to live your life in fullness.
When pain arises, it’s a heads up, an invitation to go deep within and heed its call.
Pain invites you to listen. Pay attention. Witness. Notice. Be *Present*. Become aware.
Whether it’s an addiction
Unhealthy habits or behaviors
Not being honest with yourself
Staying stuck in a job, relationship, or situation that drains you
Not taking care of your body Temple
Giving your power and sovereignty over to a boss, doctor, partner, parent, government…
Numbing out won’t help you. It prolongs the pain. Numbing turns pain into sickness, depression, anger, sadness, disgust, shame, guilt, cancer (actual or cancerous thoughts.)
Ultimately numbing is sabotage.
How are you going to listen to the Truth of your pain?
How can you love it for the wisdom it provides?
I can honestly say that pain has helped me to turn things around in my life. It’s helped me come to realize that I had/have health issues that require my attention and changes. It helped me put an end to unhealthy relationship patterns.
Pain taught me that my depression is really unexpressed grief from childhood emotional pain stemming from abandonment and not being celebrated for the full-of-awesome kid I was.
If you have pain, you don’t have to carry it around with you. Your identity doesn’t have to be wrapped up in holding onto the pain of something that happened to you.
Sometimes pain needs to be acknowledged, witnessed. FELT.
Can you simply give in? Ask pain what it’s saying/teaching you.
Then, L I S T E N
Photo by Misumi Photography